Where There’s Smoke There’s…

By: | November 22, 2014 | Tags: , , , , , , ,

Crime Sign

 

Bill Cosby!

 

Don’t get me wrong.  Like the rest of America, I grew up loving Bill Cosby and the Huxtables.  At the time, four-year-old Raven Simone got her start on the show, and I’m still her fan.  Theo, Claire. and the rest of the Huxtables were dinner-table conversation growing up.  I am still a fan of  Phylicia Rashad (please don’t quibble; I checked that spelling twice) who played Cosby’s onscreen wife.  I became such a fan as a result of the show’s success that I followed all the actors, including Cosby, throughout their careers.

However, my husband taught me an expression, “Where there’s smoke, there’s fire.”  He also taught me, “If it walks like a duck, and talks like a duck, it’s a duck.”  This week, while listening to the news, I have reviewed the actions of four men that support this belief.  First and foremost is Bill Cosby.  This morning, KNX1070 reported that the eighth woman came out against Bill Cosby and accused him of sexual abuse.  At the time of this writing, there are ten women who have accused him of drugging and sexually assaulting them.  Cosby has not been arrested or charged with anything that I know.  Do I want to believe these charges?  No.  Do I believe them?  Yes, because where there is smoke, there is fire.

I once wanted to be a lawyer like my father.  I wanted to triumph the accused, you know, get them justice.  Yet here I am–judge, jury, and executioner–and the man hasn’t been formally charged with anything.  What has changed, you may ask?  I now believe that where there’s smoke, there’s fire.

What bothered me was the “why now?”factor.  Why keep silent for decades just to accuse him now?  Are they networking?  Are they trying to blackmail the comedian?  I read that they were scared and embarrassed to come forward.  Cosby had manipulated situations where they would be too frightened or humiliated to come forward or so I read.  Therefore, the only missing piece of the puzzle that still left reasonable doubt in my mind was answered for me.

Cosby’s situation is not isolated.  Many women came out against another Bill, Bill Clinton, when he was in office.  This Bill was accused of sexually harassing women he worked with.  The women had no motive in accusing him.  On the contrary, there was a downside–public embarrassment.  So again I believed, where there was smoke, there was fire.  Clinton must have done what he was accused of doing.

Another celebrity I idolized for years was Bob Barker from TV’s “The Price is Right”.  He was accused of sexually harassing a model on his show.  He insists the affair took place, but that it was love, not a crime.  I would foster a guess that some celebrities, due to the adoration fans give them, think they are above the law.  However, we are not talking motive here.  We are talking about whether they committed these crimes, not why they committed them.

Just yesterday, NASCAR champion Kurt Busch was accused of physically abusing his ex-girlfriend.  The woman was severely battered, and Busch is currently under investigation for the incident.  No charges have yet been filed.  Do I believe that he, and these other men, probably did what they have been accused of?  Well, where there is smoke, there is fire.

Readers, what do you believe?  Do you believe Cosby is guilty of all charges or innocent until proven guilty in a court of law?  Do tell.  I look forward to your views.

Janice

  1. Napoleon

    I don’t know if Mr.Cosby is innocent or guilty. However; there are almost 15 women who have made these allegations. All of their stories have similar patterns and contain stories about alcohol and drugs being used.

    • Janice Wald

      True. I saw an interview with him, and I heard an interview with him. He didn’t even deny the allegations in either interview. He just kept saying he didn’t want to talk about it.
      Thank you for commenting and for subscribing to my blog!

  2. SingleMotherAhoy

    I’m not sure if you heard about it, but in the UK we had a massive scandal – there was a TV presenter in the 1970s called Jimmy Savile who was super famous, had TV shows and was famous for raising thousands (possibly millions) for charity, as well as volunteering in hospitals and suchlike. He was untouchable, and the few women who came forward saying he’d abused them before he died, were attacked and scolded for accusing a national institution of such a thing.
    When he died more allegations came out, but they were laughed off… until there was a TV documentary where the journalist actually looked into the claims properly and found several women who had been abused. Suddenly floodgates opened, and hundreds came forward – even a member of his family, I think. The BBC were involved because he had been their biggest star when this was going on – there were several allegations he’d abused members of his shows’ audiences in his dressing room. Now there’s a massive investigation that’s been going on for years and almost every “beloved” celebrity from the 1970s has been investigated.

    I think a person’s fame and on-screen persona can make us not want to believe the claims of a nobody whose words might ruin the illusion. The biggest fear for any victim of abuse is that they might finally pluck up the courage to speak, and then nobody will believe them any way. Cosby is a massive institution in America, and I really think he is using his status to keep these allegations at bay. If it was only one, it could be passed off as fantasy or a misunderstanding – but there are lots now, and more than one has been paid off to keep it out of court. I’m with you – where there’s smoke, there’s fire. And I think this will be one helluva blaze.

    • Janice Wald

      Hi,
      No, I had not heard about the scandal in the UK. Imagine those poor women who knew what a monster he was first hand watching him pass himself off as a good guy raising money for charity. It must have been quite a scandal. You remember it so well all these years later.
      I think it’s the same situation with Cosby. Because he was an “institution” here in America, he thought he could get away with whatever he wanted (OJ Simpson comes to mind), and his victims were too afraid of ridicule to come forward, like in the situation in your country.
      For me, it was his lack of denial that sealed his guilt. However, someone responded to my blog and pointed out that the pattern of the victims’ stories was always identical: drugging and then rape. That also gave them credibility in my eyes.
      Thank you for writing me, especially from that far away. So I take it Cosby has made international news? It never occurred to me until you wrote. Thanks for researching out and responding and letting me know this situation is not limited to America.
      Janice

  3. AfterTheKidsLeave

    I heard one of Cosby’s victims interviewed on the radio yesterday. When it happened, she tried to tell her agent, but the agent told her “not to rock the boat,” and that no one would believe her word against his. When she tried to tell a lawyer a couple of years later, he literally laughed at her. So she never told anyone else–and who can blame her?

    The Cosby allegations, the Jian Ghomeshi case in Canada, the Jimmy Savile case in England–the thing they all have in common is a powerful perpetrator who uses his authority to abuse and take advantage of others, knowing that he’ll be protected by those around him.

    • Janice Wald

      Hi Sharon,
      I love your blog, by the way. “Midlife Boulevard”. What a funny title.
      Anyway, how sad for these women. Hopefully, they are now feeling vindicated to some degree. I am hoping, the idealist that I am, that the Cosby case gives more women the courage to come forward in the future. I look forward to more analytical exchanges with you, on both our blogs. We sure seem to have a lot in common. Janice

  4. Bella Silverstein

    It might be possible to dismiss one claim, possibly two. But the accusers’ numbers are in the double digits. The question of why now and not then can be answered by considering these dichotomies: the mores of today vs. the mores of yesteryear; the automatic believability of child vs. adult, female vs. male, power vs. subjugation, fame vs. an unknown. Add to that the stigma of rape and the blame-the-victim mentality that still goes on today, even in institutions of higher learning; plus the well-known unhappy sociopathy of comedians (Google it), and unfortunately, it all adds up.

    • Janice Wald

      I agree. I believe it’s celebrity worship that causes two problems. First, stars start believing their own “press” and behaving outside the law. Secondly, victims are too afraid to come forward because of the adulation the perpetrators of the crimes receive. Thanks for writing.
      Janice

  5. Sarah

    As a abuse victim I don’t believe the accusers. I have my own reasons but their claims all ring false to me. I’m not a Cosby fan. I can get behind him taking advantage of young women, promising to help them with their careers but left them high and dry after he slept with them. I can believe that, however, I don’t believe the rape allegations. I don’t have that gut reaction that usually get with these type of cases. I’m not saying these women are lying, I’m just saying personally that I don’t believe them or anyone else who comes forward. All I’m seeing is a mob mentality, attention seeking, not any real victims. I guess I am waiting for that ONE accuser who touches me instead of makes me roll my eyes.

    • Janice Wald

      Hi,
      1. Thank you for being courageous enough to share your story with me.
      2. Why aren’t you a Cosby fan?
      3. As a reader said, all these women claiming to be drugged? How would they all know that was part of his M. O.?
      4. As I said in my blog, he didn’t deny it in any interview I’ve heard.
      I guess that’s enough for me. Thanks for writing.
      Janice

  6. batteredhope

    I had a hard time accepting Bill Cosby’s guilt until I read a post by my friend yesterday. It greatly disturbed me and now I have not doubt. She shared her story on her blog and I was stunned.

    • Janice Wald

      Hi Carol,
      As you read in my post, I have accepted Cosby’s guilt. What I find interesting is that an abuse victim wrote me and doubted his guilt. Is that what changed for you?

      • batteredhope

        Do you mean that someone who was abused by HIM doubted his guilt?

        • Janice Wald

          No, I’m sorry if I wasn’t clear. She was abused by another man. That woman doubted Cosby’s guilt.

  7. Chikexyz

    What fans in America, the world must understand is that these people they see on television/movies are actors. They are playing a role on the screen in order to entertain us, make us spend more of our money. We do not know them personally.If you fantasize about them or allow their larger than life image to seduce you then you will end up practically under their psychological control. Michael Jackson, Corey Haim, Corey Feldman, Robin Williams, Bobby Brown, the list of personal let downs is almost endless. I refuse to allow any of these people to be my heroes anymore. I am following the Good Book, paying close attention to my mom, dad, pastor, and close friends. Life is too precious and short to be following after secreted dark angels.

    • Janice Wald

      Hi,
      I agree with you. Star adulation is what causes celebrities to believe the press about them–that they can do no wrong. Because people treat celebrities and pay celebrities like they are better than the rest of us, they believe it and think they are not accountable to the same standards the rest of us are.
      Did you see that Bill Cosby made the cover of People Magazine? I haven’t had a chance to read the article yet. Have you?

  8. cavellemartin

    It’s unfortunate but I think he’s guilty. It doesn’t seem like any of the women involved benefit by accusing him, other then to finally set themselves free of something that has haunted them for years. However, it’s easy to take something like this and overlook the fact that right now we don’t have the whole story but there is certainly smoke. It’s just a matter of time before we find the fire.

    • Janice Wald

      I love the end to your comment. I agree that the women don’t stand to gain anything but negative attention. I try to be analytical. All report similar patterns in Cosby’s behavior and stand nothing to gain but embarrassment from the allegations.
      Thanks for writing. I read you subscribed to my blog. Welcome and Happy Thanksgiving!
      Janice

  9. accounting and bookkeeping services

    Another celebrity I idolized for years was Bob Barker from TV’s “The Price is Right”. He was accused of sexually harassing a model on his show. He insists the affair took place, but that it was love, not a crime. I would foster a guess that some celebrities, due to the adoration fans give them, think they are above the law. However, we are not talking motive here. We are talking about whether they committed these crimes, not why they committed them.

    • Janice Wald

      Hi Accounting,
      I agree. I have always felt that some celebrities think they’re above the law due to the amount of success they’ve received. They think they’ll be successful at crimes too. I started thinking that way when OJ Simpson was on trial for double murder, a previously acclaimed football star and actor.
      I had fun discussing this with you. Where did you find the post? It’s years old now. I don’t even blog about the news anymore. Thanks for coming by.
      Janice

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