How To Find Gratitude in Blogging Friends

By: | December 7, 2014 | Tags: , , , , |

One factor of blogging that’s been such a blessing is one tends to make blogging friends.

They are virtual friends in the essence that we’ve never actually met each other but friends nonetheless.

One such friend is Laurel Regan of the blog Alphabet Soup.  Friends help each other, and in that spirit she has been trying to help me link to her site.  There’s only been one obstacle: she only has a link up party (that’s blog speak) on Sunday.

The sweet girl that she is, she repeatedly sent me the link to her blog party, so bright and early this morning, I tried to link my latest post, my reaction to TIME’s year-end issue, to her site.  Little did I know, it was a gratitude link up.  I could only link a blog oozing gratitude, certainly not my TIME  reaction in which I lambasted their choice of cover stories ( 12-7).

Not wanting to look ungrateful to Laurel, here I begin my gratitude post.  My readers who have followed my short but rewarding blogging journey know two-thirds of what I’m grateful for this year.  Sure, I’m grateful for all the blessings in my life: my husband, my children, my job that I enjoy so much, my friends, family, and pets.  However, there are three standout mentions that I’m grateful for in 2014.

1. My readers know I had a cancer scare in October  (Heaven Can Wait,  The amount of support from women (sorry guys, only women wrote with their cancer stories) was extraordinary.  I am so grateful I don’t have breast cancer.  With a small pain tolerance like mine, it would not have been an easy journey.  A cousin once commented about cancer, “You don’t want it.”  I didn’t want it, and I sure am glad I don’t have it as we begin a new year.  I am definitely grateful for my health.

2.  As my readers know from my Thanksgiving post, I’m grateful for blogging in addition to all my other blessings (What No One Tells You About Blogging  As I continue on this path, I am meeting more and more bloggers.  Recently, after reading my posts in which I insinuated Darren Wilson, the police officer that killed Michael Brown was racist (okay I came out and said it), a person wrote me and thanked me for bringing the issue of racism to light.  I felt like a Crusader.  I felt like Erin Brockovitch (Ferguson Decision: Right or Wrong?

3. What my readers don’t know about that I’m over-the-moon grateful for as 2014 draws to a close is my husband’s mobility.  I can be corny, sentimental, maudlin by saying that life can change in a second, on a dime, but Blogging friends Wayne bracecheesy clichés become clichés because they’re true.

Early this past May my husband, on a routine shopping errand, walked into a store, slipped on some liquid that the store owners neglected to mop up and severed his knee cap.  When I said goodby to him as he left that morning, I  was overwhelmed with the feeling that I should have gone with him.  Guilt for not joining him to help with the groceries when I was free to do so?  A premonition that he would need me, and I should be by his side?  One will never know.

I could not have been more carefree as I played on the computer when I got the call.  An ambulance had been called; my husband was on the way to the hospital.  It was the last carefree moment I would have for a long time.  In what seemed like a fraction of a second later, we had a case worker, a lawyer, and, of course a surgeon.

My biggest concern, naturally, was that my husband’s mobility would be permanently impaired.  The doctor assured me so casually that he would be fine, I didn’t believe him.  Thankfully (and that’s what this post is about, right, why I’m thankful?) Wayne has continued to make steady progress thanks to a great surgeon and physical therapist.  Wayne got lucky.  As we walked down the hall of the examination room area, I heard a doctor tell a patient that her fracture did not heal properly.  We, on the other hand, are one blessed family.

The title of my post is “How to Find Gratitude”.  Can readers tell the answer by now?  You find it in adversity.

Readers, what are you grateful for as you start 2015?

    • Janice Wald

      Profound! Thank you so much for the complimentary words. I was going to make it like a riddle. Can you find gratitude under a rock, in the breadbox… Instead, I thought the end was chilling, at least for me it had impact. When people turn lemons into lemonade (excuse the trite cliche), they are able to be grateful for what they have. Thanks for reading what I wrote and commenting.

  1. Julia Manuel

    So pleased to hear your husband is recovering so well! Blessings, jules

    • Janice Wald

      Hey Julia,
      Thank you so much for writing. How thoughtful of you writing me with such kind words for my husband. We got very lucky. What was the highlight of your 2014? Happy early holidays,

      • Julia Manuel

        Of course ☺ my husband has a brutal knee, bone on bone, very painful & limiting so I can relate. Hopefully a replacement in near future. Our health is everything! My highlight to be sure is receiving the gift of a Nikon D90 DELRAY camera in the mail this week from a dear friend & photographer who’s going to mentor me in photography ☺ I’m bursting with joy!!! My first “real” camera ☺☺☺☺

        • Janice Wald

          I’m sorry to hear about your husband, but how thrilling about your camera! You should use it to take blog photos. Thanks for writing.

  2. John Doe

    Sometimes the dealer gives you a royal flush, sometimes he gives you a pair. You have to play the cards you are dealt. It is not always the cards you have it’s what you do with them that determines your future. For those having a bad 2014, remember the good things no matter how few they were

    • Janice Wald

      I think that’s a beautiful philosophy. It’s a very positive outlook, and reminds me of what my husband would say. Thank you for reading what I wrote and commenting.

  3. carla

    Sounds like you are a very humble person!
    I am grateful for my familys continued support with my life goals!

    • Janice Wald

      Humble? What a nice thing to say. Thank you for reading what I wrote and answering my question. You are right. I am very grateful for my family’s support of my blogging and other goals. Happy (early) holidays,

  4. Laurel Regan

    So glad your husband is healing well! And I’m glad you added your post to this week’s Gratitude Linkup – such a wonderful addition to the collection! 🙂

    • Janice Wald

      People are writing me nice comments. Thank you for the inspiration.
      PS You have become one of my top commenters!

  5. Michelle

    Glad to hear your husband is healing well now! Love your post as it reminds us to always take a moment to remember what we are grateful for.

    • Janice Wald

      Thank you so much for writing. I think it’s beautiful that I ended with an inquiry as to what others are grateful for, and you and so many others said you were happy my husband was doing well. Thanks for reading what I wrote, and writing me.

  6. Ashley Gulla

    Aww, I love this. I’m glad it was just a cancer scare!!!! It’s funny you’re posting this today. I just wrote about 3 simple ways to change your life and practicing gratitude was numero uno on my list! It really can change your life 🙂

    • Janice Wald

      Hi Ashley,
      I think around the holidays people do reflect, so not really a coincidence. Nice to know great minds think alike, though. 🙂 Thanks for writing me. I hope all is well.

  7. Kathy

    Hi Janice! I just found your link over on Twitter on @Mondayblogs and then I started reading and saw you are a friend of Laurel Regan’s (which I am sorta too!) Isn’t the blogging world such an amazing way to reach out and connect with others? I LOVE gratitude and being thankful and just finished my own 30-day gratitude challenge for the month of November so I’m still in that mode. So when I saw the title of your post I just had to read. And it’s true. We CAN find gratitude everywhere if we look. Thank you for the reminder! ~Kathy

    • Janice Wald

      Hi Kathy,
      1. Thank you for reading what I wrote and writing me.
      2. Thanks for telling me where you found my blog. It’s hard to know sometimes what I’m doing right! LOL
      3. The blogging community–it’s so great how we network. It’s become one of the joys of blogging for me. Thanks for reaching out. It was nice meeting you. Any friend of Laure’s is a friend of mine 🙂

  8. icantalkoutloud

    A truly inspirational piece of writing, I am grateful that I have beaten depression this year and I am looking forward to the next year 2015 🙂

    • Janice Wald

      You made it through! Focus on that. Thank you for reading what I wrote, writing me, and the support.

  9. Joan Harrington

    Hi Janice,

    Really enjoyed your post today, thank you for sharing 🙂 There is so much to be thankful for!!! Finding gratitude daily is so important, and I am so happy to hear that your hubby is doing better and improving, tons to be thankful for!

    Great post and a fantastic share 🙂

    Thank you!

    • Janice Wald

      Thank YOU. As you know, I consider you a blogging guru, so your opinion means such a great deal. Thanks for the kind words about Wayne.

  10. knottymarie

    Why do I feel like I’ve read this post before? I certainly hope your hubby heals quickly. (and be sure to make that grocery store cover ALL of the medical expenses). As you know I, too, have had a really bad year. Had a difficult time finding something to be grateful for. I was laid off from job, lost my insurance, and now Having surgery next week to hopefully eradicate cancer, 2015 can not get here fast enough.

    • Janice Wald

      As far as reading the post before, I had 3 things to be grateful for this year. The first two I’d already written about which is why I linked back to those posts. I know you didn’t know about Wayne. That part was new. As far as the suing the grocery store… They are actually refusing to pay us a penny. Their stance is they keep their floor as clean as they can. We have a lawyer but our case isn’t heard until 2016 in case they want to settle sooner.
      As far as you go, yikes! I assume then, blogging has been such a blessing for you. It sounds like the preoccupation that blogging brings could not come fast enough for you.
      Thanks for sharing personal facts. They are “craptastic” 🙂 But I do like that we are getting to know each other better.

  11. shawn

    Thanks for sharing! Even when things are down, I believe that it is for the best that we focus on the good in our lives. We tend to manifest the things our mind dwells upon. If we think down and gloomy thoughts, guess what? We’ll have down and gloom in our lifes. That doesn’t mean thinking sunshine and roses will make everything better, but it may just give us that extra mental edge when we need it most! Here’s wishing everyone an #AWEsome 2015!

    • Janice Wald

      Hi Shawn,
      You sound like an up-beat, positive person. We should all have your attitude especially when things get down. Thanks for reading what I wrote and responding to my writing.

  12. Kelly

    You are so right. Adversity makes us prioritize, reflect, and focus on what really matters. This year I am thankful for health and safety. When either of these aren’t present, worlds are turned upside down. I hope I can help those who are experiencing unfortunate circumstances and help them as I’m able. Great post.

    • Janice Wald

      Thank you so much. I’m glad you liked the ending. I was toying with… is it in a breadbox…? is it under a rock…? LOL I’m very lucky; my husband too. You’re right. Without health and safety (they kind of go together) we have nothing. Thanks for responding to my writing, and of course, for reading it.

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